The Gores

Walking home from the Social Service Department trying to move forward with Jolee’s adoption, I told Romon that most days I look at Jolee and the thought that she is “adopted” doesn’t even cross my mind. The days that it does cross my mind, I feel bad. I am proud of this fact. Now to explain why I felt bad. I felt bad because I do not want her to grow up being the “adopted” child.

I try my best to give Jolee and Jalynne equal attention while not overdoing it and excluding one. It’s tough, but I wonder how parents feel with two children they birthed?

Romon replied that he wants us to celebrate her being adopted. We will not hide this part of her life. I began to think, what a great way to explain the love and goodness of God to her, and how he has a plan for us all.

Here are just a few questions that have crossed my mind as an adoptive parent:

Would Jolee be alive today?

Where would Jolee be today?

Would her home have been an orphanage?

Or would she have had parents, and a family?

Would her “family” be able to love her the way we do?

What was I thinking when I, in fear, thought about saying I couldn’t be her mother?

What is God’s great plan for Jolee’s future?

We pray for our girls and pray that we are able to demonstrate Christ in our lives so much that when the girls are older they will not depart from God’s words, from His ways. I thank God for His perfect plan. I thank God for a husband that would not even imagine saying no to a child, to a gift we all know as Jolee.

-Melinda

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